My fiance works in a department of five … one is the supervisor with the other four under her. Supervisor is divorced without children, and work is her life. Then there’s my fiance, another man who is married with children, and two women who are married with children.
One of these women is a little on the fiesty side and has gone above Supervisor’s head to complain about her. Looks like there’s gonna be a showdown this week.
Woman is not happy with the expectation to work more than forty hours a week. Supervisior is not happy with Woman’s chronic tardiness, frequent personal calls, frequent PTO for a plethora of reasons, and unwillingness to work extra hours.
Fiance said tonight, “That’s why I work an hour here and an hour there at home … it makes it so much easier to get the work done each day.” Their job requires short turn-around-times, so there is little room for flexibility … and those who get their job done successfully do work at home.
I told him, “That’s where feminism has screwed things up. She’s a working mom of four kids. She doesn’t have those extra hours after work. I wouldn’t have those extra hours after work. Ya just can’t do it all.”
Her tardiness wouldn’t be such an issue with flexible work hours if she actually flexed at the end of the day. And I don’t know if her personal phone time is necessary to manage the children at home while she’s working. But here’s the deal … she can NOT do it all. And she’s angry that a female supervisor without kids is requiring so much.
The flip side is that Supervisor greatly lacks people skills, and they’ve had issues with her supervisory skills before. Supervisor is also going through some medical stuff. And, she does require many more hours than should be necessary if they were fully staffed.
But we are in a depression. Jobs are hard to come by. “Fully staffed” is probably a thing of the past and of the far, distant future. Jobs with deadlines built-in are going to require flexibility.
Fiance is a man. He can work those extra hours. He’s a non-custodial single-dad. Even when we get married, he still has more flexibility than I to work those extra hours … even helping in the home.
Feminists want it all … and they want it all at the same time. Then they whine when they can’t do it … blaming someone else. As it’s been said often out here … that’s the bitch of it all. Want a career? Great! Go for it … just don’t expect to balance being a full-time wife and a full-time mom and PTA president all at the same time … well, unless you are independently wealthy and can hire someone else to care for you home and care for your kids. But then you’re not doing it all, are you?
I am thankful for the opportunities I have, but, but the grace of God, I have always known I can’t do it all … and I have always known what I wanted … and I have always made choices so that I could do what I wanted … and that’s be a wife and Mommy. Had the opportinity to marry and have children not happened, I would have been thankful for the opportinity to support myself and have a career. But I have never expected to do both at the same time.