Rule: Make Sure They’re From A Good Family?

One of the criteria that is often cited when looking for a potential husband or wife is that said prospect should come from a “good” family. Right off the top, that eliminates me. I was born into my family; I did not choose them. They are a mess. And yet, I am judged by them.

That is not a foreign concept. We judge individuals by the groups with which they associate. Christians, as a group, are judged by the actions and choices of individual Christians.

This is not an all-out bad thing, but it’s also certainly not an all-out good thing, either. While people are individuals, we are also greatly influenced by our environment and the company we keep.

Still, this concept that many have that a person should not be considered for a potential relationship leading to marriage who is not from a good family has always been a hard one for me … because I have no control over it … and I’m not from a “good” family.

My mom finally left my dad a few years ago, dropped eighty pounds, and showed up to my niece’s graduation last month with dyed blonde hair and wearing low-cut sundresses, showing off her well-endowed-cleavage. My brother, who was there, referred to his “wife” and his fourteen year-old daughter as Big Sh*t and Little Sh*t. And my dad just sent me an email that he’s marrying a woman he met on eharmony.

My sister wrote me, “They have practically been living together for the last six months or so. She lives five hours away and dad drives back and forth as so does she. They are both keeping their own homes and will live between the two places. They are not combining their monies, he will have his and she will have hers.”

In my family of origin, including my grandparents, there’s adultery, incest, rape, physical and mental and emotional and verbal abuse, divorce, alcoholism, gambling addiction, sex addiction, food addiction, and I’m sure I’m leaving something out. Thankfully, I am very sure I don’t even know it all.

I do not believe one should not look at another’s family at all. After all, one is certainly influenced and shaped in different ways by one’s family. It’s not one’s family that should carry the weight, though, rather it’s what one has done with their life regardless of their family … in spite of their family … because of their family.

I’ve worked hard in my life to break the cycles handed down to me simply by birth. I’m not perfect, but I’m not like them anymore. I am thankful to have found a man who took the time to see me, to see into my heart and my soul, and to judge me for who I am … not for where I came from.

A Sacrificial Society

As Amir just shared with us, “North Korea publicly executed a Christian woman last month for distributing the Bible, which is banned in the communist nation … Ri Hyon Ok, 33, was also accused of spying for South Korea and the United States and organizing dissidents. She was executed in the northwestern city of Ryongchon near the border with China on June 16, according to a report from an alliance of several dozen anti-North Korea groups. Ri’s parents, husband and three children were sent to a political prison camp in the northeastern city of Hoeryong the following day,”

Amir’s comments were profound, and I wonder …  how many of us would do what is right, would risk our lives, to give another person a Bible?  How many of us would risk the lives of our family, just to give another person a Bible?

I think this is significant because we are willing to risk the lives of ourselves and our families for our own, selfish desires and motives in this country. We are willing to kill unborn babies because the woman has the right to her own body. We are willing to be sexually free because we have the right to screw anyone at anytime we want, regardless of the consequences to our health or our families or society. We are willing to lie and be deceitful when it suits our own purposes even when it costs us our integrity and character and destroys our family name for our children and spouses. We are willing to destroy ourselves and our families and our society.

But are we willing to make such sacrificial choices for God? Are we willing to make such sacrificial choices for another’s eternal salvation? Are we willing to sacrifice our own life and the lives of our parents and our spouse and our children just to give another person a Bible and tell them about Jesus? … just to give another person a chance to spend eternity in heaven and not hell?

We are definitely a society, here in America, where we are willing to sacrifice … our integrity … our character … our values … our morals … for our own selfish desires.

But we’ve got it all wrong. We’re sacrificing the wrong things for the wrong things. And although these sacrifices don’t reward us with a public execution and private escort to a prison camp, they cost us a whole lot more than public death or incarceration ever could.

North Korea Executes Christian for Distributing Bible

Here in America, Christians get all up in arms over (a) how often to read the Bible, (b) how to interpret difficult passages, and (c) how certain Biblical directives–such as baptism–are to be administered.

In public life, Christians and non-Christians alike often haggle over the extent to which Biblical principles ought to influence public policy.

In North Korea, they not only have total separation of Church and State, the Church is even illegal. Distributing the Bible is illegal.

Ri Hyon Ok found out the hard way, as she paid with her life.

Pilgrim and Myself

…could make a living taking care of vermin like these.

Some standard household tools–hammer, pliers, saw, Swiss Army knife–and some rope. A blowtorch would be good, too, for some concentrated efforts.

No one would hear these vermin scream. And we wouldn’t tell anyone what we did with the bodies. We’d also save taxpayers a mother lode of money.

In fact, we could market our efforts as an economic stimulus of sorts…

One More Reason to Trust Your Government

When OboCare gets implemented, it will take a freaking army to track down every instance in which a health care professional steals medical records.

In this case, if the records in question–taken a year before the incident–did not involve Virginia Tech shooter Seung-Hui Cho, no one would be looking for them.

And if you think other parties–such as banks, life and property insurance companies, and even employers–won’t be able to gain access to your records (which could potentially damage your employability and/or your job status), then you are two steps behind.

We already have cases of city and state governments leaking personal information (Joe the Plumber). Federal government–through terrible legislation–has fomented the creation of systems that will make it easier for hostile parties to locate confidential information.

And yet, if the government is running health care, you will not be able to sue for economic damages.

After all, bureaucrats are almost never held accountable. Just ask ATF sniper Lon Horiuchi, and former Attorney General Janet Reno.