While Betty Friedan’s true believers will answer in the negative all the way to their deathbeds, it’s long past time for American women–otherwise inclined to feminism–to wake up, smell the napalm, and face reality in all its ugliness. And if you think I’m being mean, don’t shoot me. After all, I’ll shoot back–and not miss. Besides, I’m just the messenger, as Susan Walsh is making me look like an Omega in drag.
Gloria Steinem gave the men all the reason they needed to support feminism: “you’ll screw more and enjoy it more!”** (And Roissy said, “Amen, now get on your knees, slut!” So many women complied that he probably can’t even remember all their names! While I’m kidding, I’m willing to bet that I’m probably not far off the mark on Roissy, but I digress…)
Now, if you’re a man, and have no compelling moral or religious reason to remain chaste, you couldn’t have it better. All you need is the audacity to ask, and you’ll never have a shortage of women willing to take off their clothes for you. Whether you wish to do this at social events, pickup bars, or–heck–even online, there are plenty of women out there who will do what you want. (And yes, even in CHRISTIAN circles! Oh, and, by the way, I got plenty of offers in those days WITHOUT EVEN ASKING!)
And Walsh is ABSOLUTELY correct:
(a) this has driven the price of sex down for men;
(b) this has driven the cost of chastity UP for the women;
(c) the risks for the women have only gone UP.
Think about it, ladies: if you don’t spread your legs, and men don’t have to try very hard to get other women to spread theirs, then where does that leave you? Ceteris paribus, you are on the fast-track to Old Maidenhood.
The only disagreement I have with Walsh–and it’s not so much a disagreement as it is a lack of coverage on her part–is that this dynamic also puts the screws to men who otherwise desire, typically for religious reasons, to remain chaste. This is because a man in protracted singleness, whose range of sexual experience is restricted to his right hand, is going to be viewed from strange to perverted, even by Christian women. If his singleness starts extending past age 25, his market value among fellow Christians starts dropping fast.
Is there an easy answer to this? Not really. Men and women will have to change their outlooks on such matters. There are only two ways that this can happen:
(a) economic (or other) factors that force women–as a group–to throw off their feminist independence and seek the security of marriage;
(b) economic (or other) factors that force men–as a a group to eschew no-strings-attached sex and seek the security of marriage.
Such a movement can be driven by any number of things: (a) economic calamity, (b) the emergence of STDs that are deadlier than AIDS and easily-transmitted through heterosexual intercourse, (c) Christian resurgence on a massive scale, (d) the collapse of the traditional academic establishment that fosters the frat-party atmosphere of college, as well as the incipient feminism.
The situation is not good, but neither is it hopeless. For the Christian, your confidence is not in the flesh anyway, and you will need to trust in God to provide for your needs according to His riches and glory, as well as to make your path straight as you live your life. Choosing boldness and courage–as Joshua did as he entered uncharted territory–will be your challenge.
For those not so religiously inclined, the situation ranges from bad to ugly. Marriage–as it exists today under law–doesn’t provide the security that it once did. But even in divorce, women are no better economically today than they were in the days before no-fault divorce. The risk of divorce has gone up, but the benefits have not kept up. And for the men, the risks of divorce have gone up while the benefits have fallen like a brick. There is a legitimate crisis of trust between the sexes, one which dwarfs any such crisis that has existed since Adam threw Eve under the bus.
From a secular standpoint, the case has been made that one ought not marry at all, as the risks outweigh the benefits. Sadly, the economic argument has merit.
Compounding matters, the price of sex has gone into a steep dive over the last three decades. The feminists–and their male supporters–have seen to that.
Have you had enough of feminism yet?
**That is according to USA Today founder Al Neuharth, in his autobiography, Confessions of an SOB.