I mention the case of Claire Russo–a Marine officer who was raped at a Marine Corps Ball by a fellow Marine–to point out how bad our world is.
But first, a couple disclaimers:
(1) Claire Russo–like the others cited i the story–did not deserve to be raped.
(2) Claire Russo–by any reasonable standard–acted prudently.
Fact is, she was an Officer. She was attending the Ball with her cousin, who was a Naval Aviator. She was introduced to a fellow Marine, who gave her a drink.
She had no reason not to trust that she was in good company: she was an officer at a military function, with a cousin who was himself an officer, and was in the company of fellow Marines.
I’ve mentioned it a couple times on these pages: NEVER, EVER ACCEPT A DRINK FROM ANYONE WHEN YOU ARE AT A BAR OR A PARTY!!!
Claire Russo trusted a guy to whom she was introduced by a cousin, AND SHE STILL GOT RAPED.
Russo’s case may be the extreme, and it may not be a high percentage of gals to whom this happens, but–if you’re Russo–the “chances” might as well have been 100%.
IF YOU ARE IN THE MILITARY, DO NOT BUY THAT CRAP ABOUT CAMARADERIE AND BROTHERHOOD.
If you are female, there’s always going to be at least one jackass out there who has your number. Count on it. Whether you believe rape is about sex or about power, it doesn’t matter: there are going to be guys with designs on your flesh. Period.
And they will do anything–fair or unfair–to get your clothes off and get you into a compromising position. And those types are always going to hang out in bars, parties, and Military Balls. Especially where there is alcohol involved.
If you go to these functions,
(1) Go with a group of people who know, and stay in that group.
(2) Do not accept a drink from anyone other than a server.
(3) Go home with the people you came with. If there is alcohol involved, keep your drinks numbered: a beer or a glass of wine at most. If a guy offers you a ride home, DECLINE! Stay in your group.
I am not offering legalistic, hard commands here; far from it. I am offering advice.
As Russo can attest, the world is full of shady people.