During the runup to Mother’s Day, I saw no small number of accolades directed toward mothers, including single mothers. Many were very heartfelt toward those moms who raised their children well. The inclusion of single mothers tended to be more generic, with the presumed intent to ensure that they were also included in the accolades.
During the runup to Father’s Day, I also saw no small number of accolades directed toward fathers, including single mothers. Many were heartfelt toward those dads who raised their children well. The inclusion of single mothers seemed to be generic, assuming that those brave, heroic single mothers were playing both roles. There were also no small number of passive-aggressive pot-shots at abusive fathers, “sperm donors”, and other manners of no-shows.
And yet there were no accolades directed toward those single fathers who–like those single mothers who are in that position not due to their own choices–also bust their asses to put roofs over their children’s heads and raise their children well.
Pardon me, but this is total B.S.
While I have seen no small number of shots at bad–or no-show–fathers, I’ve yet yet to see a mention of (a) those women who chose to sleep with those men and put themselves in a position of possibly having children with men they know to be iffy at best, (b) those mothers who abuse their children by shacking up with said men who, in turn, abuse their sons and/or daughters, (c) any mention of those single dads–who also wear both hats–who bust their asses to put food on the table, be there for their kids, and teach them well.
And yes, folks, those men are out there, and I would submit that they are far more plenteous than the no-show dads out there.
So ladies and gentlemen, use this day to honor your fathers. And if you have nothing good to say about them, then don’t say anything.
My dad wasn’t perfect, but as far as I am concerned, he did a damn good job.