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Conspiring to Put the Screws to a Father

Denninger has a succinct assessment of this situation.

I was once a character witness in an adoption case gone bad. The biological mom–JD–actually BEGGED SL and her husband, who ran a maternity home, to adopt her baby. After legally signing away her rights–and claiming not to know who the father was–she tried to contest the adoption.

During the case, one of the big things that had to be established was an assessment of the father and his rights in this case. In contradiction to her prior affidavit, JD now claimed to know who the father was.

But, during the court proceedings, she never named him and he never showed up. JD would eventually lose, SL and her husband were able to adopt JL, and JL is now a grown adult.

Sadly, however, cases like this–and the one Denninger cites–provide insight into reaons why adoptions can be difficult: (a) the birth mother can act unscrupulously, and (b) the adoptive parents can act unscrupulously. This drives up the marginal cost for adoptive parents, as it becomes paramount to ensure that the father’s rights are not being stripped away in the process.

While the legal world is catching onto the dilemma, fathers still are behind the proverbial 8-ball. Chalk this up as yet another risk of sex outside of marriage.

2 thoughts on “Conspiring to Put the Screws to a Father

  • ame says:

    wow, what a tangled web we weave.

    the adoptive parents are two career people who tried invitro seven times … i wonder how late in life she waited b4 trying to have a baby. i wonder what lies she believed thinking she would always be able to carry her own baby. i wonder if anyone ever told her the truth about waiting so long. i wonder who lied to her saying she could have it all on her own timeline.

    shame on the adoption attorney in this day and age – the attny should know better. the attny should be sued for not even attempting to involve the bio father.

    adopted mom is a developmental psychologist – ummm … she’s not stupid. she should have forced the bio father question.

    the misspelling of his name and cherokee nation thing sounds very suspicious to me. and it sounds like the bio father is being vindictive rather than wanting his child … but he still has rights.

    and the birth mother – shame on her. it doesn’t matter whether she knew his cherokee heritage or even if he had one, he was the bio father. he has legal rights.

    no one is acting in the best interest of the child – not one of them. they are all being selfish.

  • ame says:

    also … the Indian Nation ought to do more to strengthen their families and make this dad take responsibility for all his kids, as the article states he had previous children. apparently they’re not training their people to prevent ” ‘breakup of the Indian family,” if they condone behavior where he throws his seed around. if you’re gonna plant your seed, something will eventually grow.

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