A friend posted a link to 5 Reasons Why Many Girls Remain Single by Emmanuel Ogunjumo on facebook, and since we talk about this kind of stuff out here, I hopped over and checked it out. I’ve never heard of this guy before, but he made some insightful points:
[Girl] wanted Jesus…not a disciple of Jesus…but Jesus Himself
[Girl] saw herself as a princess, but she did not care to prince her man
[Girl] liked being pursued but did not want to be caught
[Girl] was way too picky
[Girl] wanted Boaz but wanted to remain a Delilah
At the end he added this: “Food for Thought: Maybe I cannot find Mr.Right because I am wrong in the way I see relationships.”
I find his points to also be true of women who are married:
They want their husband to be perfect, not choosing to allow him to be human, while expecting him to accept her humanity unconditionally.
They want him to treat her like a princess, but they treat him like dog poo and then even brag about it … and they create a pattern of focusing on his weaknesses rather than his strengths.
They like the game of being desired and want to continue to play and lure, living in a fantasy world, without having to face reality and live this ordinary life.
They’re way too picky and pick and pick and pick at him till he just shuts down ’cause nothing he does is ever good enough; she is never satisfied.
They want him to be perfect in every possible way, yet they expect him to accept her just as she is, regardless of all her flaws.
And another Food for Thought: Maybe my perception that my husband is no longer Mr. Right is because I am wrong in the way I perceive my husband, myself, and our marriage.
As always, I must add … if you, man or woman, are in an abusive relationship, these do not apply. Seek professional, biblical, help immediately. An abusive person will always distort the truth.