Here are my observations:
(1) If I was a gal, the last thing I would want to go to is a “purity ball”.
I’m all for keeping sex in the marriage bed, but–dang!–who on earth thought these events were a good idea?
To address TWW’s questions….
(2) What do we mean by purity? Depends on the context. In the [pun intended] purest sense, it is uprightness in heart before God. As David says in Psalm 24:
Who shall ascend into the hill of the Lord? or who shall stand in his holy place?
He that hath clean hands, and a pure heart; who hath not lifted up his soul unto vanity, nor sworn deceitfully.
In the context of the discussion of sex, that means (a) fixating your mind and heart on matters that are proper, eschewing lusts that are corrupting, and (b) in your acting out of such matters, keeping sex within the marriage bed.
(3) Are all sins the same? Depends on what you mean by that. On one hand, Jesus said that if you break one command from God, you’ve broken them all. At the same time, all sins do not have equal impacts and consequences.
I hope we can all agree that murder, for example, is much more serious than getting short with someone who pesters you with inane questions. I would also suggest that committing sexual acts with children is a bigger honkin’ deal than, say, shooting a bald eagle.
(4) Does God view all sins the same? No. God treats some sins with greater severity than others. When the Pharisees accused Jesus of having an unclean spirit, He warned them of the severity of blasphemy of the Holy Spirit, as opposed to other sins. The Apostle Paul, comparing sexual sins with other sins, noted that, unlike other sins, sexual sin is a sin against one’s own body.
Oh, and while I believe that a child molester can receive repentance and be counted among the redeemed, such a one is not a “hero” and is not qualified for church leadership. I would also add that such a one must be kept away from children, and not permitted to serve in any ministry that involves children or teens.
There is a fine line between faith and stupidity. It’s bad enough when your stupidity bites YOU in the posterior, but why must you subject children to such risks?