A Christian Married Woman’s Priorities

It has been stated that a married woman’s priorities should be:
1. God
2. Husband
3. Children

I think that needs to be a bit more defined in the church culture these days. Women tend to skip Husband in there thinking that God is all they need, so whatever they believe God tells them, that’s what they should do.

God never ever contradicts Himself. He never changes.

In the Bible, God says in Genesis 3:16:

To the woman he said,

“I will make your pains in childbearing very severe;
with painful labor you will give birth to children.
Your desire will be for your husband,
and he will rule over you.”

in Exodus 20, God says:

14 “You shall not commit adultery.

God tells the woman in Ephesians 5:22:

Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

In Ephesians 5:33 God tells wives:

and the wife must respect her husband.

and in 1 Peter:3, God tells wives:

Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, 2 when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. 3 Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. 4 Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. 5 For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to adorn themselves. They submitted themselves to their own husbands, 6 like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her lord. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear.

Sooo … in order for a Christian married woman to honor God and put Him first, she MUST obey God’s commands which are clearly written in the Bible. If she ‘believes’ she’s ‘heard’ God speak to her anything that contradicts what is written in the Bible, then what she believes she heard is a lie.

4 thoughts on “A Christian Married Woman’s Priorities

  1. If she ‘believes’ she’s ‘heard’ God speak to her anything that contradicts what is written in the Bible, then what she believes she heard is a lie.

    I would say that this principle applies to everyone. If you’re “hearing” a directive that violates clear Biblical principles, then I’d say that either (a) you’re “hearing” your own understanding or (b) you have another “spirit” making a hijack attempt.

    • absolutely.

      i think i remember there’s a verse in there that talks about the different kinds of ‘wisdom’ – meaning that Satan is alive and well and loves to manipulate what we ‘hear’ and ‘think’ … but it’s not from God.

      my late Mentor used to tell me to find it in the bible in three places – to let the bible validate the bible and not take verses out of context or manipulate them for our own desires. i thought that was good advice.

  2. I’d also add this: when one raises these Biblical principles, you’re always going to have someone pipe in and ask, “So are you saying I have to submit to abuse?”

    Uhmmm…no. If you’re in danger (we’re talking physical and/or sexual abuse here), then you need to call the police, get into a safe house, and perhaps press charges.

    If you don’t think it’s charge-worthy (other forms of abuse that probably aren’t going to stick in court), then perhaps you should take the matter to your church elders. Just make sure you record the conversation. If they are dismissive, then publish the audio on the Internet and let the Interwebz rain Hell on them.

    If I were the pastor and you brought that to me, I would direct you to the authorities if the abuses were physical or sexual. I would also direct you to a therapist. If your husband was a member of the church, I would make efforts to waterboarduse church discipline on him. Hopefully he would also be willing to see a therapist after we finished waterboardingdisciplining him.

    • agreed.

      ‘abuse’ is waaay overused and is itself abused, which is sick that it’s stretched that far b/c it invalidates those who are sincerely abused.

      also, baiting your spouse till the slap you – that’s not abuse on your spouse’s part. that’s abuse on the part of the one baiting.

      i had no idea how misused ‘abuse’ is in this culture till recently.

      if one is honestly being abused, they will often try to hide it – not blast it to the masses. and if one is honestly being abused, if your life is in danger, seek immediate help.

      BUT … make sure it’s honest abuse. getting the gubmnt involved is NOT good for anyone, and falsely accusing a man of abuse is a crime.

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